🏹 Between the mind and the heart:

Well-being and problem solving

- Here is a concise guide with practical tables : Lithotherapy , incense, essential oils, food and more...

🎐 Discover how to manage difficult events, health problems, physical or mental, social pressures with practical and spiritual solutions to regain balance and serenity.

🌊 Life presents us with many challenges. Knowing how to respond, both practically and spiritually , can make a huge difference to our well-being and inner peace.

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🗣️ Introduction:

🎭 What can you do to avoid making bad decisions?

"The first thing to do is to take a step back . It's best to avoid making decisions in haste or under the influence of emotion. When possible, let some time pass: a night's sleep or simply a few minutes of silence may be enough to see things more clearly."

"A good decision does not come from overthinking, but from a balance between reason, emotion and personal values ..."

• Identify your emotions . Ask yourself if you are making decisions out of fear, anger, guilt, or a desire to please. Recognizing these emotions helps you regain some clarity and understand your true motivations.
• Base your decision on concrete facts rather than impressions. Try to verify information before committing. At the same time, listen to different points of view : an outsider, more detached, can see what you don't.
• It's also essential to dare to say no . Many bad decisions arise from a desire not to disappoint others—this is the heart of the Abilene paradox. Saying no with kindness is respecting yourself while respecting others.
• Then ask yourself if your decision is aligned with your values ​​and priorities. If it doesn't align with what really matters to you, it's likely to lead to frustration later. Also, take the time to imagine the consequences of each option: "What will happen if I say yes? What if I say no?"
• Finally, learn from your mistakes . Reviewing your past decisions will help you better understand your thought patterns. Mindfulness —breathing, meditating, refocusing—can also help you clear your mind before making a choice.
• And remember: too much information kills the decision . Set a limit on your research, then act with confidence.

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1️⃣ 📌 Personal life events

💼 What to do if you lose your job?

“Job loss is difficult, but it can become an opportunity for reinvention . Maintaining motivation, seeking support, and cultivating inner serenity are the keys to transforming this transition into a springboard to a new stage of life.”

• Concrete practice: Analyze your finances and look for new opportunities.
• Update your resume and professional profiles. Write several versions of your resume depending on the types of positions you are targeting.
• Identify the assistance to which you may be entitled (unemployment benefits, social assistance, solidarity fund).
• Establish a clear budget to avoid financial stress and know how long you can last without a job.
• Seek support from loved ones or a job counselor.
• Take care of your health.
• Spiritual Support: Practice gratitude, giving thanks for what you already have. Meditate every morning to welcome change, ask for inner guidance, or make positive affirmations about your abilities and future.
• Every evening, write down three small victories of the day to cultivate gratitude and confidence. Writing is describing, it is decrying to calm inner cries...
• Quick tip: Set simple daily goals to keep you motivated.

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🧠 What should you do to communicate with your children?

"Communicating with your child means understanding, listening, guiding and encouraging . It requires patience, clarity and kindness. Good communication strengthens the parent-child relationship, fosters mutual trust and helps everyone grow in an atmosphere of love and respect."

• Understanding your child better begins with understanding yourself : recognizing your emotions, judgments, and reactions helps you better manage your interactions. Asking yourself questions about how you feel, how you criticize, and what your child needs helps you communicate more calmly.
• Communicate clearly, avoid generalizations (“you always do whatever you want”) that label the child. Instead, you need to talk about specific facts (“you made a mistake, let’s see why”) to avoid hurting their confidence. Banning words like “never” or “always” promotes constructive and caring communication.
• Educating without comparison, comparing a child to others harms his self-confidence . It is better to value his personal progress (“it’s better than last time”) rather than confronting him with the performance of others. The child must feel that his parents believe in him.
• Violence is useless; physical or verbal violence only leads to fear, not understanding. It is better to explain the reasons for a rule and encourage the child's compliance, rather than imposing it out of fear of authority.
• Formulating your requests clearly and making them clear and positive facilitates cooperation. Saying, "Please put your clothes away. I like it when the room is clean" is more effective than "Your room is dirty because of you." This empowers the child and motivates them to do well.
• Reward and encourage, compliments must be specific and sincere : it is not enough to say "well done", but to express what was done well and why it makes one proud. These encouragements give meaning to the effort and encourage perseverance.

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💞 What to do to overcome relationship problems?

"Life as a couple is a major source of happiness, but also of difficulties. Problems can affect all aspects of the relationship: communication, sexuality, trust, projects, or even money. They can be overcome through listening, dialogue, and a shared desire for growth. Working on yourself and your relationship helps strengthen the bond and restore harmony."

• Communication : Insufficient or malicious communication can create misunderstandings and tensions. Communicating with respect and clarity remains the key to balance.
• Sexuality : Routine, discomfort or lack of communication can cause frustration and emotional distance.
• Trust : Lack of trust in oneself or in others fuels doubt, mistrust and constant judgment.
• Jealousy : moderate, it shows attachment; excessive, it becomes destructive.
• Personality incompatibility : Differences appear over time and require dialogue and adaptation.
• Divergent life plans : different professional or personal choices can weaken the relationship.
• Money problems : Financial decisions, responsibilities, and economic disagreements are often sources of tension.
• Distance : Physical or emotional distance weakens the bond, fostering doubt and fear of abandonment.
• Create new dynamics: better communication, conflict management, emotional balance and rebuilding trust.

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⚖️ What can you do to find a balance between work and private life?

"Work occupies a large part of our days and strongly influences our mental and physical balance. When it spills over into our private lives—through evening emails, working weekends, or constant thoughts of work—an imbalance sets in."

"Work-life balance is all about time management, clear boundaries, and maintaining personal well-being. Focusing on yourself not only helps you avoid burnout, but also helps you be more fulfilled and effective in your work."

• Get organized : plan tasks, set priorities and estimate the time needed to avoid overwhelm.
• Set boundaries : Learn to clearly separate work time and personal time.
• Be focused at work : avoid distractions (social networks, personal phone) to finish your tasks at the office.
• Take care of yourself : devote time to your passions, relaxation and well-being.
• Allow for contingencies : Leave free slots in your schedule to reduce stress.
• Maintain social connections : spend time with loved ones to recharge your batteries.
• Take real breaks : completely disconnect during the holidays to recharge your body and mind.

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💍 What to do in the event of a marital change?

• Concrete practice: Organize your finances, your daily life; and your accommodation if necessary.
• Seek psychological support from friends, family, or a therapist.
• Give yourself time to accept the change.
• Spiritual support: Perform an inner release ritual: write down your emotions and symbolically let them go. Practice forgiveness, even toward yourself.
• Establish a stable routine to regain a sense of security.
• Quick tip: Meditation or daily prayer to find inner calm and clarity.
  

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🏥 What to do in case of serious illness?

• Practical practice: Follow medical prescriptions and maintain an active social network.
• Seek psychological support for yourself or your loved ones.
  
• Maintain an active social network.
  
• Write down your priorities and focus on what is essential.
• Spiritual Support: Visualize your body healing and connect with higher energy to build resilience. Prayer or meditation can reduce stress and build courage.
• Quick tip: Deep breathing and daily gratitude for what remains positive in life.
  

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🕯 What to do if a loved one dies?

• Concrete practice: Allow yourself to grieve and express your emotions with loved ones or a therapist.
• Take care of your body and mind to get through this difficult time.
• Force yourself to go out, to travel if possible, don't miss an opportunity to meet someone, each person doesn't arrive in your life by chance...
  
• Think about your future, your dreams...
• Spiritual support: Create a remembrance ritual, light a candle, or meditate on shared love and light. Accept the cycle of life and impermanence.
• Quick Tip: Keep a spiritual journal to write down your memories and thoughts of gratitude for the person who has passed away.

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2️⃣ 🧠 Mental health and addictions

🚭 What to do when faced with addiction?

• Acknowledge the problem without judgment.
• Replace addictive habits with positive activities.
• Develop a concrete plan with progressive goals.
• Note every progress, however small, to build motivation and self-confidence.
• Concrete practice: Seek professional support, addiction specialist and psychologist.
• Spiritual Support: Practice daily meditation or prayer to strengthen your inner discipline.
• Visualize your life free from addiction.
• Seek inner guidance for each step.
• Quick tip: Repeat positive affirmations like: “I am free and master of my choices.”

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📱 What to do when faced with screens?

"A modern addiction: In just a decade, the smartphone has become ubiquitous in our lives. It's not just the fault of youth: these devices are designed to capture and hold our attention."

In 1998, at Stanford, BJ Fogg founded the Stanford Persuasive Technology Lab and created captology , a discipline that aims to use technology to influence human behavior .
The applications are therefore designed to stimulate the brain , notably via notifications and social rewards (likes, messages, etc.), which activate the dopamine circuits — the pleasure system...

Studies show that the mere presence of a phone can reduce our cognitive abilities and concentration. This phenomenon, dubbed “brain drain,” illustrates how fragile our attention span has become.
Some digital experts, such as former Facebook executives, warn of the dependency loops deliberately created by the platforms.

• Stay optimistic: not all intensive smartphone use is an addiction. According to psychologists, a distinction must be made between habit and true addiction , the latter involving loss of control and negative consequences on daily life.
• Work away from your phone, as its mere presence distracts the mind.
• Limit notifications to reduce unnecessary requests and preserve your attention.
• Our smartphones are designed to capture our attention through captology. Without resorting to systematic addiction, it's essential to regain control and develop conscious digital hygiene to protect our concentration and well-being.

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💭 What to do when you have dark thoughts?

• Write down your thoughts to understand them better.
• Adopt rejuvenating activities and avoid isolation.
• Every morning, write down three positive intentions for the day, to orient your mind towards the light.
• Concrete practice: Talk to a loved one or a professional
• Spiritual Support: Connect with your spiritual dimension: prayer, meditation, conscious breathing. Ask for guidance and protection.
  
• Contact emergency services immediately if necessary.
• Quick tip: A short daily meditation can help calm the mind.

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🧠 What to do if you think you have dementia?

• Many people worry about their memory or concentration—this is very common. These symptoms can be caused by stress, fatigue, anxiety, or other health problems—not just dementia.
• The first step is to make an appointment with a general practitioner . They will conduct an initial assessment, ask questions about your symptoms, and may refer you to a neurologist or geriatrician if necessary. If there is sudden memory loss, significant gaps, frequent disorientation, or if it interferes with daily life, you should consult quickly.
• Talk about your worries with your loved ones or a psychologist. Avoid isolation, which aggravates anxiety.
• Quick tip: Eat well - Move regularly - Stimulate the mind - Sleep well - Manage stress

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3️⃣ 👥 The entourage and loved ones

🤝 What to do when someone close to you has serious problems?

• Concrete practice: Listen, listen, and listen without judging.
• set boundaries, and encourage the person to seek professional help.
• Set your boundaries to protect your mental health.
• Gradually support their small progress. Celebrate small victories together to maintain motivation.
• Spiritual Support: Send thoughts or prayers of peace and healing to your loved one. Visualize them surrounded by light and protection.
• Quick tip: Practice mindful empathy: be present without getting emotionally lost.

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4️⃣ 🌍 Social pressures and external influences

⚖️ What to do in the face of social pressure?

• Identify sources of pressure.
• Look for a positive network that supports you.
• Concrete practice: Identify your values, set your personal goals.
• Avoid constant comparison with others.
• Spiritual Support: Detachment Meditation: Imagine external expectations sliding away like water, and reconnect with your deeper essence.
• Quick tip: Each night, write down one action that aligns with your personal values ​​to stay centered.

😨 What to do about fears instilled by others or states?

• Distinguish between rational fears and manipulated fears.
• Practice critical thinking and stress management.
• Stay connected to your loved ones and your community.
• Concrete practice: Check the information and analyze its validity.
• Spiritual Support: Practice mindful breathing and safety affirmations: “I am protected, guided, and at peace.”
• Quick tip: Create a daily quiet space to find inner calm and clarity.
• Write down your worries and ask yourself if they are really justified.

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5 ✅ Conclusion

Life is full of challenges, but with support, planning, and self-awareness , it is possible to overcome every difficulty. Take it one step at a time , celebrate your progress, and never hesitate to seek professional help.

Life's challenges are inevitable, but by combining concrete actions and spiritual practices , you can:

• Regain serenity and clarity of mind
• Strengthen your emotional resilience
• Maintaining a balance between body, mind and soul...

🧩 The 5 tips:

🥦 Eat well (diet rich in vegetables, fruits, oily fish, few processed sugars).

🏃 Move regularly (walking and physical activity stimulate the brain).

🧩 Stimulate the mind (reading, games, learning, discussions).

😴 Sleep well (the brain “cleans” itself during sleep).

🧘 Manage stress (meditation, breathing, prayer, relaxation).

💡 Practical tip:

Keep a spiritual and practical journal : Record your emotions, actions, prayers, and meditations to track your progress and strengthen your inner peace. This promotes motivation and clarity of mind.

“Take care of yourself so you can help others!”

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🕯️ PRACTICAL TIPS AND TABLE:

📖 Reading:

- Abbé Julio (Julio-Henri known as Abbé Joseph-Antoine Boullan, 1844-1912) was a Catholic priest on the fringes of the official Church.

The book brings together practical prayers for various everyday situations. It includes:

• His prayers circulated widely in France from the end of the 19th century, often in popular editions.
• The work is not only a religious book, but also a collection of protective and magical prayers that many considered a manual of blessings and healings.

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💎 Lithotherapy table